Guys, I realize that the majority of the brides have dreamt about their wedding longer. Like A LOT longer. I get it. I was there, too. But, being invested in the process is going to help make it better. I know, I know. You probably don’t care about the colors or a lot of the decor selections, BUT I have four reasons why you should heed this wedding advice for guys and be more invested than you feel like you should during the wedding planning process.
Weddings are FUN!
And I should know. Mine was a blast, and I can probably count on my hand the amount of weddings that were just not an enjoyable experience at all. The food is great. Everyone is there to celebrate you two as a new couple. People will be enjoying themselves. The more you are involved in the planning process, the more you will anticipate it, and the more FUN you will have!
She knows you’re committed to making the wedding the best it can possibly be.
Consider this as preparation for being married. SPOILER ALERT! You’re going to do things that you don’t care about or would rather not. But, so will she. As much as you’d rather not attend the ballet, she would probably prefer to do things other than watch [fill in your favorite sport or video game here] with you. Doing things together, especially things that are important to your spouse, is what makes relationships stronger and creates the memories that you will look back on fondly. Besides, you’re going to be an integral part of the wedding, you might as well be an integral part in planning it.
Being active in the planning process will help relieve some of her stress.
I know. I know. She will ultimately have a good sense of what direction she would like the wedding to look like. You probably don’t even know what “Boho” or “Rustic chic” is or what they look like. (Check out this wedding terminology dictionary to help!) And, I don’t think she expects you to. But being present and offering your sincere opinion or even providing unprompted suggestions will make your soon-to-be wife feel AMAZING. Plus, you will be scoring mega points with all of her family and friends. She’ll gloat about you to them. I promise.
Ask “How Can I Help?”
This comes from my wife. Your fiance is going to get stressed out multiple times between now and the wedding date. It’s going to happen. Good luck trying to “fix it” so she doesn’t. Use Prince Kristoff’s example from Frozen 2. Don’t just ask with the idea to FIX what’s wrong. Ask the question and be prepared to be there FOR her. This again goes back to my previous point. She will feel validated by showing that you care, you get to be a part of the process, and she will love you even more for it.
I hope this wedding advice for guys prove to be helpful. I know I wish someone had shared them with me when we started planning our wedding. If you’d like more tips and updates on how to “Get In The Game” during the wedding planning process, join my email newsletter by clicking HERE. I promise I won’t spam you. I’ll only send you pertinent info that will help you “Get In The Game” as you get closer to your wedding day!